The star date is accurate, I looked it up. I am slightly astounded at myself for not having looked that up earlier in life. What kind of Trekker am I…. I should demote myself to something… What do Trekkers call Trekker posers? If the term is not coined, we must work on that. Perhaps Terran.. but used derisively for earthbound beings who know nothing of the stars. I’ll keep working on this one.

Well, Christmas is finally over, but it was a pretty great one. Having three families to celebrate Christmas with makes things both hectic, but also more fun! More people to exchange with, our Christmas has become a 3-day event. Christmas number one is on Christmas Eve between my husband and I. Christmas number two is on Christmas morning at my Father-In-Law’s side of the family. Christmas number three is back at my parents house. And Christmas number four is on the morning the day after Christmas at my Mother-In-Law’s house.

When people hear about this they often give me the advice of alternating years on the holiday. I think that sounds awful! Sure, the driving around is a bit of a pain, but I wouldn’t want to not see a part of my family, or my new family, for a whole year cycle. People tend to have a lot of advice or notions on marriage that baffle me as things move along.

Gaz and I have been married for almost four months now. When we meet someone new & tell them that we’re married… we get some weird hybrid “Oh that’s cute, boy are you in for some misery” look. This comes from both other married people and single people as well. Then we get advice about how the first five years are the hardest, but if you stick it out you just might make it. It’s pretty jaded out there. Then when I say, “Well you know, it’s easy for us. We’re best friends, and this isn’t hard at all it is a fun adventure!” I get that look… the look you give a Cat when it chases some toy mouse. Oh isn’t that cute… they’re chasing the mouse like it’s real. Stupid cat, thinks the mouse is real.

It just kind of makes me sad really. Not for myself, of course. But that there’s someone who really thinks it’s naive for me to say that Marriage isn’t hard, and that I truly don’t think it will get any harder. I guess I just figure when you’ve found the right person… why would it be hard? I don’t really say too much when people throw this negativity at me. I honestly do not know sometimes if it’s just social obligation to talk about & treat marriage like a responsibility rather than a fun time. Or perhaps this person is, in fact, miserable and projecting their lack of success on to me. But it’s just awkward.

I’ve lived with Gaz for more than 2 years now, and the only real thing that’s changed after the marriage was my last name. They’ve been some pretty great times and I just don’t see marriage or anything else making them worse. I know what a “hard work” relationship is, and I’m definitely not in one. Isn’t it weird that it sounds naive to say that your Marriage will be perfect and last forever? That should really just be the reality, right?